This well-known saying is accepted by nearly everyone who is in the dating scene and accordingly, singles on the hunt make declarations such as: "I don't want the hottest", "I don't want the richest", "I don't want the smartest", etc. Many then believe, since they are being so realistic and "flexible" in their list, they should expect to find exactly what they are looking for.

However, a moment of serious thought and clarity reveals that "exactly what they are looking for" IS INDEED PERFECT… for that person!

Now we can take a moment and re-evaluate "perfect does not exist" and understand that this might not be referring to an objective view of the richest, kindest, best-looking person on earth, but may actually refer to a subjective view of what we think is perfect for us.

This may explain why many have not found what they think is perfect for them (along with the necessary glue of mutual attraction). Those who are still searching argue that this can be found – so they keep looking. But perhaps it's time not to leave things to fate but to re-evaluate our approach. Perhaps the truth is that most of us lack the self-awareness, wisdom, maturity, and spiritual sensitivity to know exactly what will be a good match for us and consequently, our list of what is a good match for us is simply wrong. Why else would we not be presented in life with someone who fits our list and where there is mutual attraction?

Perhaps it's time to take a new look at the saying "perfect does not exist" and realize this is not only an objective description of perfect but a subjective one that forces us to realize that we don't know what is best for us. When you approach dating with this new approach and when you meet someone where there is mutual attraction but may not fit your list…

Perhaps it's a sign that we aren't as smart as we think we are… and that list we had might just be a bit off!

Perhaps it's time to appreciate the qualities that attracted you to this person who might truly be your "perfect" match – a match you never expected or calculated.

And Perhaps when we truly understand what "perfect doesn't exist" actually means, it will enable us to open our eyes and be ready for something different. Be ready for a different and new life… a life with the one who is truly perfect for us.